Remy made a bold statement about what a “real” mother is and the people are up in arms.
A clip from Monday night’s episode of Love & Hip Hop: New York, shows rapper Remy Ma in the recording studio, seemingly crafting a new track by dropping a few lines that apparently did not sit well with viewers. Holding her daughter, Reminisce Mackenzie, in one arm, Remy holds her phone in her other hand, where she reads off the lyrics into the mic. The first few lines, in which Remy spits, “They got this saying, ‘integrity comes first.’ Social media makes it worse,” were not the cause of any controversy surrounding the clip. Instead, the Internet decided to focus on the message—and delivery—of the next few lyrics.
I can’t believe Remy Ma said “real mothers don’t twerk.” pic.twitter.com/m6wsdk49Sv
— happy harry. (@fckwithWILLY) January 7, 2020
“Real mothers don’t…twerk,” Remy exclaims, with a pause between “don’t” and “twerk.” Because we can’t hear the beat that Remy’s flow is attempting to match, it could obviously go a few different ways. The result of Remy’s insinuation that a “real,” i.e. “good” mother doesn’t twerk, as if a woman can’t do both, coupled with this comical brief silence had the Internet in coming for Remy.
Lmao Remy Ma cannot rap I’m crying. “ Real Mothers dont ….. twerk, She’s a Nurse “ sis WHUT? #LHHNY pic.twitter.com/9JBMiOslIs
— Kevin (@ATasarov) January 7, 2020
Did Remy Ma just said real moms dont twerk, they are a nurse? LMFAO
— Shabba Hanks (@D0MXNXQUE) January 7, 2020
Real mothers don’t *pause*
TWERK
She a nurse pic.twitter.com/oqft5I3UlH
— & THATS ON PRENATAL PILLS (@TerryTyco_) January 7, 2020
However, it’s the next few lines that are sparking more serious discourse on the clip. Many folks are taking issue with the lyrics that follow. “She a nurse. Wash the clothes, make dinner and dessert” Those with issues seem to think Remy implies that instead of twerking, a real mother has a “proper” profession like being a nurse, and does domestic duties like laundry and cooking. Remy’s recording session then gets interrupted by her baby, and the timing almost makes it seem as if Reminisce herself is objecting to her own mother’s ideas about motherhood. While this is obviously just a coincidence and good editing, plenty of people did object to Remy’s ideas, attempting to brand her as a hypocrite and saying the lyrics are “misogynistic.”
Take a look at some of the reactions below. What do you guys think? Are folks over reacting or is there a bigger message in these few short bars that Remy dropped?
People are stuck on Remy Ma’s rap line on twerking, are forgetting she “tried” to reduce women to washing clothes and nursing. Do you understand how misogynistic those lines are? That women are capable of so much more. Just wondering, anyone is paying attention to that. pic.twitter.com/Kq10Nr69Yd
— 🗞📰 Yoncé Headlines📰🗞 (@YonceHeadlines) January 7, 2020
Mother's who twerk >>> Mother's who go to jail because they shot one of their friends over $3k https://t.co/HdXTOyY28a
— Sisa (@Titanbaddie) January 7, 2020
Why are y’all stuck on the twerking line from Remy Ma? Y’all should be alarmed by these two lines…The misogyny of these two lines. Seriously, wake up!!! pic.twitter.com/tr6CjqOy0o
— 🗞📰 Yoncé Headlines📰🗞 (@YonceHeadlines) January 7, 2020
Remy Ma is the same lady who defended R. Kelly. & Bill Cosby & blamed women for those men preying on their victims.
Real mothers don't defend men who abuse women & little girls…
This is also why I never took her "women empowerment" agenda serious. https://t.co/jijbX6BotV
— Bella Goth (@HoodSocialism) January 7, 2020